According to an online free medical dictionary, Pain is an unpleasant feeling that is conveyed to the brain by the sensory neuron.
There are two types of pains, the pain resulting from physical accidents such as car accidents, home accident, sports accident and the rest and the one that is emotional, caused sometimes by disease conditions and relationship or work related conditions.The physical pain can seriously limit the performance of humans and make them even defendants on others for their physical need.The solutions to the physical pains and diseases related pains are medical diagnosis and targeted treatments; nutritional recommendation could form part of the treatment.
The subject of our discussion here is the causes of emotional pains in normal working adults. Emotional pains result more often from our personal interactions and perceptions from our environment , people and our work loads , work ethics and our attitudes.
While our relationships could produce frictions and disaffection and often our work life balance can be demanding, we may not have control over them but we sure do have control over our work ethics and our attitude to work. We can complain and become cynical about our situations or can decide to look at them differently and take responsibilities for our participation and perception of the entire process.
Most humans actually move away from pain and want to increase their happiness and many can dream lofty dreams when they are happy and young but the scars of life unpleasant adventures, rejections and failed attempts greatly affects what causes pain to humans.
According to Dr Mercola,” Emotional pain often exacts a greater toll on your quality of life than physical pain”.
In our work lives, the understanding of our emotional pains and having the right attitudes in dealing with them is one single factor that distinguishes successful people from their unsuccessful counter parts. One of the most important factors that determine how successful we can be in dealing with our emotional pains is actually by developing our awareness level to recognize the presence of the emotional pains and acknowledging them like the acknowledgements of received mails in our ‘brain-box’ as we do in our mail boxes. After acknowledging emotional pains ,the second step is deciding to do something about them. By these twin actions of accepting them and acknowledging the emotional pains, they give us the feeling of ownership of our lives.
The third step will be to use our awareness and human conscience to search out the source of this pains and if take this step , we often find out the out the source. They could be from disagreements arising from our work relationships; from pressures from family responsibilities, pressing financial obligations falling due or could be from large to do list resulting often to previous procrastination or from the concern about the well-being of a loved ones.
Having confirmed the sources of these emotional pains, we should quickly proceed to the fourth step. In this phase we should get a clean sheet of paper and write out at least 20 possible solutions to a particular emotional pain. The fact that we can make the attempts to generate the twenty possible solutions to a particular emotional pain, gives us the freedom as a thinking humans to be proactive and this mind mapping process could even precipitate new solutions that will not only solve our present challenges effectively but could lead you to a new-found success stories as spin offs.
After this fourth assignment, we should free ourselves for some time and we shall l immediately begin to see that our confidence level rise and we will see the emotional pain in a fresh way and can even make the solutions better by prioritizing the list according to the solution that we feel that will have the greatest impact on the top and the one with perceived impact at the bottom of the list.
The twenty solutions generated will then be assigned alphabetical order according to their importance, ‘A’ should represent the most important, followed by a ‘B’, then a ‘C ‘and so on until we list the last solution. This exercise will achieve two things for us: first we are going to adopt the solution that we think is most appropriate and second, we shall keep others as our options because a challenge that has only one solution is dangerous and if it fails it leave us powerless.
By the time we finish the fourth assignment, our willpower will be bursting to the sims to get us to the next phase which is to take actions. And we begin feel assured that if the first solution fails, we have others in your closet showcase.
The fifth step is actually take the leap of faith and execute our best possible solution, and action targeted at the problem to avoid over preparation, Most often the solutions that involves our participation and contributions help us take decision faster and keep iterating until we get the desired results and even if the end result did not totally reflect our original assumptions we will feel good about ourselves that we did something about our challenges . if we consistently acts on our thoughts help to establish us as effective people and improve our self images to keep resembling our self ideals.
If by any chance an individual refused through self-defeating tendencies like procrastination refuse to take actions these gaps of self-image and self ideal of the individual will widen and could reach hooks law proportion when one can snap or throw in the towel. This inaction often result to wallowing in self-pity, negative self image and addiction as an alternative to the emotional pains which will aggravate the whole problem to reach new proportions
We are endowed so much that if we care we should never allow that to happen to us and the strong among us who by default own these characteristics naturally should extend their hands of support to the weak and the less privileged ones as we journey so that their contributions to humanity will continue to grow
Let us show today that our emotions are our friends and not our foes an become problem solvers .
5 Tips for Recovering from Emotional Pain, http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2013/08/15/emotional-pain-recovery-tips.aspx#!