Time Changes Traditions

We were all born to a set of history and traditions

that had taken scores of years for  transcriptions

Our fore-runners did all they could as patricians

to keep the traditions and heritage with previsions

 

But time changes and impairs the old  traditions

as evidenced by our modern constant contradictions

Optionally, we discovered we possess  desires to do things differently

Yet, we feared to be discerned acting flippantly

 

We, eventually, take the imperative baby steps to Change

Climaxing in sighs of relief in exchange

We, finally, acknowledge it’s our turn to re-construct

our ageing traditions or allow them self-destruct

 

Whatever we have today as our modern traditions

Will be judged by alike by the coming generations

They will choose to adopt, cherish ,deploy  and enjoy

or tomorrow  question , exterminate, uproot  and destroy

 

 

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How to Become a More Well-Rounded Leader

Is there any doubt these are desirable strengths for any leader? Most of us think in binary terms.  What’s good is absolutely good, and the alternative is bad.  Given a choice between an employee with the profile on the left, and the one on the right, it’s a no-brainier, isn’t it?

• strength

  Self-control
  Tenacity
  Boldness
  Honesty
  Focus on results
  Confidence
  Pragmatism
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  Impulsivity
  Laziness
  Hesitancy
  Deceitfulness
  Aimlessness
  Insecurity
  Impracticality
  Wishy-washiness

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THE VERSATILE BLOGGER AWARD

I am truly  honored and grateful to be nominated  for this wonderful award by a very special writer Tashnee.V. Mavee

Please do visit her blog she is an amazing writer, fashion blogger and skin care guru. You will never be bored with her open and accommodating attitude that will keep you riveted and ensure re-visits to her blog.

Thank you, dear sister,Tashnee for finding me worthy of the award , your job of showing people how to dress up and look good in spite of their income line is superb and please keep doing it as many people are benefiting a lot from them.

RULES OF THE VERSATILE BLOGGER AWARD:

1.) Thank the bloggers who nominated you and share their links.
2.) Nominate at least 10 bloggers for the award and provide links to their blogs.
3.) Also inform them about their nomination.
4.) Reveal 7 facts about yourself that your readers may not know.

I’ll start with the seven facts about myself

1. I believe in people and always work to see the good side in every body i meet.

2. I am goal driven and passionate about my work.

3. I  believe in countering any setback so the name  of the blog, “winning setbacks”

4. I love reading  because i believe that readers are leaders.

5. I am not too organized as a person so i gravitate those who are, to keep learning from them.

6. I love music a lot even from different cultures.

7. I hate to see people suffer so i try to help in any way i cuold even if is true a kind word

And my nominees are:

1. mohamadkarbi
2. chiomaokoyeakpawusi
3. blogdecompanie
4. tuneupsuccess
5. simplisticinsights
6. imaginateweb
7. thecrafthouseweb
8. americancoffee
9. victorfitnessblog
10. myyeka

I want to say thank you to all my friends who are following my blog,  special thanks goes to my blog mentor and friend, Mohamad Al Karbi who is people builder as he spends a lot of his time in couching and encouraging a lot of new bloggers and inviting so many people from different races all over the world  to showcase their God given talent through his own blog, I also  thank each  and  everyone of my followers as i will never be noticed without every single one of you, i don’t take that for granted,I appreciate your time invested in reading my posts.

God bless all of you in abundance .

Pleasure Centeredness and Productivity

The Wikipedia free encyclopaedia defined pleasure as s a broad class of mental states that humans and other animals experience as positive, enjoyable, or worth seeking for . It includes more specific mental states such as happiness, entertainment, enjoyment, ecstasy, and euphoria.

The experience of pleasure is subjective and different individuals will experience different kinds and amounts of pleasure in the same situation. Many pleasurable experiences are associated with satisfying basic biological drives, such as eating, exercise, hygiene, and sex. The appreciation of cultural artifacts and activities such as art, music, dancing and literature is often pleasurable.

Pleasure can foster productivity or become damaging to it depending on the types of pleasure one seek and the duration. Some forms of  innocent harmless  pleasures in moderation  including humor can provide relaxation for the body and mind and foster family bonding and other relationships while some forms such excessive drinking can damage health and also foster breaking of relationships and loss of lives.

Today’s world encourages instant gratification and it is available everywhere as never before: television stations operating twenty-four hours for every single day  of the year; every form of movies, both on televisions and online are now available. Internet sites with different forms of video games for  entertainment are also major influence in increasing people’s expectations. They graphically portray what other people had and can do in living the life of ease and fun.

Little is portrayed on these media of the impacts of these activities on the inner person, productivity and relationships.According to Stephen Covey, “The pleasure centered person soon get bored with each succeeding level of pleasures and fun and constantly cry for more and more excitement with bigger ‘high’, resulting in too many vacations  and undisciplined  pleasures”.  When one starts  to constantly indulge in excessive pleasure, life  gradually starts  wasting .

The negative effects of excessive pleasure-seeking include reduction of  the  productive capacity of the individual  and  most of their talents to remain undeveloped; the mind and spirit become lazy and the heart becomes unfulfilled.

The pleasure centered person, therefore, become insecure, loses confidence and start  avoid real work. And gradually it will impact on their income, relationships and may even break them up if unchecked.

A good dose of labor is needed by every entrepreneur for becoming and also remaining successful while internment non offensive pleasure enables him to refresh his mind and body. It is should be done very wisely. Humor is one form of pleasurable activity that naturally provides harmless fun.   Humor and other positive emotions foster greater mental flexibility (creativity). Non-aggressive humor can even increase feelings of being eager to work. When we hear or see something funny we feel a desire to tell someone about it and laugh together. Laughter is contagious, even when we do not understand its cause.On laughing together we feel identified with others (cohesion effect)and  when shared, laughter  has the effect of bringing people together or closing distances, or even of reducing conflict; it helps us to relate to others in a more relaxed manner, it helps us to deal with our fear of making a fool of ourselves (to avoid being laughed at, it is better to laugh at ourselves, so that humor acts as a remedy for shyness), it can help us to find solutions to the problems of every-day life, and  reduces feelings of frustration we encounter  when going about our daily chores.

 

 

 

 

 

Reference:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pleasure

Stephen R. Covey, 7 Habit of highly effective people, Simon & Schuster,UK

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Aspiration for Success and Apprehension of failure

Once a baby is delivered, the game begins : the nurturing to triumph over the complexity of infancy ,then followed by the teaching, couching and learning as  young grown-up transforms from dependent to independent individual.

From crèche to nursery and to grades/primary schools through university, children are totally   dependent or semi dependent adults to their parents and guardians until certain acceptable age in the society they live. Some communities or countries put their official adult age to eighteen ,nineteen or even twenty-one  years of age when individuals  are officially confirmed as adults.

Adults are granted certain privileges they were not given earlier than that  such ability to drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes and drive cars and even have sex as adults. Most also coincide with when the young adults can fend for themselves or move way from parents to live alone except in case of physical disabilities.

At the point these young adults officially begin to face life to make their own contributions, the tools most of them have about cold fact of life is that there is only one way to go: to make success and most of the stories they were told  from toddlers to  their young adults  years  both at home and in the school collaborate their world view :success and success and success and never process . If you ask any of them what will happen if they fail to achieve that aspiration, well, I don’t want you to see the fear that will appear on their face, all I know is that you will  give them nightmare for the wrong reasons.

In most societies, failures should never be discussed either in the family, school, with friends or any other place. In fact, there is a name given by various societies to those who have produced undesirable results in course of their lives such as losers, never do well and so on.

The reason is not farfetched from the way the media give the final great  results of discoveries and invention  as almost a single event .(never asked  scientists how many times they produced undesirable results in their experiments or how the opposite  undesirable results in their laboratories  accounted for  completely new substances that go on to solves many societal problems),

If someone is lucky (get the right results sought) he/she becomes successful and finally reveal the final result to the public and media , often hiding many embarrassing moments before the final result was correct. Nobody is encouraged to try the other failed attempts to know if there is something that can come out from them.

Here lies the trouble, the same successful people are still living in fear and can then do anything to sustain their  successes  at all cost because they are aware of   the truth about life that every success is a probability  and the society  will find it very hard to believe that same persons  can still fail again and again. Sometimes when a person  who have been wildly successful at one venture is hired as an  expert in another venture, fails to replicate the success again.

This scenario is playing itself out as we observe today that by disrupting innovation, some technologies are being rendered obsolete within weeks, months and years after they debut unlike before now. Today we are watch in horror as the jobs disappear in the markets as thousands of food chains and banking, air lines jobs are being replaced by robotics and therefore, will leave many well-educated and trained employees in those fields  become  unemployed  daily due to layoffs without any knowledge of what to do .

Therefore, change in ways we learn is paramount as we should start telling and teaching ourselves and especially our young ones that failure is a probability and a possibility as well as success. We should educate them to be confident and have courage to investigate what is termed failure because there are countless ways it could have gone and each a possibility could unlock something deep and special ,therefore, can unleash their entrepreneurial potentials to climb to new heights.

If we study  failures and  develop the ability to unravel them, we will  became like great scientists and inventors like Thomas Edison and  Nikola Tesla who will always go back and find why they failed and return to  repeat the same experiment over and over  varying  some conditions and holding others constant until they were  able to produce something new , original and tangible . This can happen both in creation or production of goods, new management styles, leadership to marketing and even online businesses.

Even when we eventually become successful in the short term, we should always return to give our strength to new discoveries like good musicians who are on top of the chart and know that new songs can be released at any moment that may knock out their music from the top of the chart. So they still spent their time wisely writing and composing more songs to launch them back to the top each they slip from the top of the chart.